Home' Advocate Communications : Fiordland Advocate 6 October 2011 Contents HOT TOPIC
Page 6 | 6 October, 2011
Speed dating is a bit like rugby.
It's a game of two halves. There
are two teams and a ref who
makes sure everybody follows
the rules. Everyone tries, but only
some score. If you score a try you
get a chance to win more points.
Forward passes are not welcome.
There are some differences,
though. There are no scrums,
you are only allowed to tackle
one player at a time, and even if
you are trying to hook up with a
front rower, it doesn't make you a
My cousin, Jane, runs Mainland
Dating, an agency organising
speed dating events in Invercargill,
Dunedin, Timaru, Christchurch and
Nelson. She explains how it works.
"It's simple, we advertise for
a specific age group and try to
get equal numbers of men and
women in the room," she says.
The women are seated at the
tables. At a signal given by Jane,
the guys join the gals at the tables
in pre-determined order to make
sure everyone gets the same
chance (this is to stop all the men
running to the prettiest woman in
the room). You have four minutes
to impress one another. When
your time is up, Jane rings a bell
announcing that it's time for the
guys to move on to the next table.
Before your next "date" you put
either a tick or a cross next to the
name of the person you just spoke
to. At half time you get a chance to
mingle with the participants over a
What kind of people go to speed
dating? There is a different mix of
people at each event. Sometimes
the room can be full of freezing
workers and farmers. Other
times it's business owners, office
workers and tradespeople with the
occasional university lecturer or a
doctor thrown in. It's a real potluck
who you meet. There
is no typical speed
dating personality, just a bunch
of people who are sick of being
single and have what it takes to do
something about it.
Jane organised her first speed
dating event in August 2006.
"Since I began my dating service
I have run hundreds of events,
met over 5000 people, and there
are over 500 couples that have
met through my service. There
have been over 40 weddings
and more than 20 babies born,
but I never think marriages are
a good indicator of success, as
many of my successful couples
are in their 40's, 50's and 60's,
and are often not looking to get
married, although they are lifetime
partners," Jane says.
She explains that success in the
context of speed dating is meeting
on a neutral ground over a cup of
"Don't expect to find a partner of
your dreams on the night," she
You may think that four minutes
is not long enough to get to know
someone, but it's often more than
enough to determine whether or
not you want to see that person
again. Jane advises that "if the
four minutes go really fast and
after the bell rings you still want
to carry on the conversation, put a
tick next to this person's name on
the list. But if the four minutes feel
more like four hours and you can't
wait for the bell to take you out of
your misery, make it a cross."
At the end of the evening Jane
collects all the lists and collates
the results. If there are two
matching ticks she passes the
phone numbers to the lucky
winners. This way you only get a
call from someone you liked and
who has also ticked you on his list.
Speed dating can be a fun night
out, however, it takes some guts
to put yourself out there. You
need to break through the fear-
of-embarrassment barrier and
take the plunge. If you find it too
daunting to face the challenge
by yourself, bringing a group of
friends along makes it even more
fun and cuts down on the cost of
But how do you broach the subject
of speed dating with your friends
and work colleagues?
"Adopt me as your cousin," Jane
says. "Just say: 'my cousin, Jane,
runs Mainland Dating'."
• This is the second in Alina
Suchanski's occasional series on
finding the perfect match.
Saved by the bell?
"Cousin Jane" with the all-important
In March 2010 I wrote to our
local paper Fiordland Advocate to
express my concern about who
was going to pay for the additional
costs of John Key's 'Around to
Queenstown Cycleway' after the
$4 million of government money
My concern then was that the
SDC ratepayers would pick up
the tab, however Mayor Frana
Carndo stated that "not 1 cent of
ratepayers' money will be used".
Seems that the cost of the track
is somewhere between $11 and
$13 million so where is the $7-$9
million coming from?
Kevin J Murdoch
middle-aged and dateless
Speed dating can be a fun night out,
however, it takes some guts to put
yourself out there.
SEND US YOUR
he Fiordland Advocate
ontributions. You may use
nom de plume providing
ou supply us with your
ame and address (for
Amy Gardyne, of Te Anau, caught this
6.8kg salmon at the Tekapo canals in
August while holidaying with her Dad Bob
PO Box 251
Te Anau 9640
A winner is drawn every week!
Drop in to Te Anau Subway to
register your birthday and be
entered into the draw when
your birthday arrives.
Don t miss out !
HOW DO I ENTER ??
come and have
lunch on us!!
It s your
6" Sub & Drink
& your choice of either
2 cookies, 1 bag of chips or
1 bag of apples
Links Archive Fiordland Advocate 13 October 2011 Fiordland Advocate 29 September 2011 Navigation Previous Page Next Page